Self help guru reveals how to make 2025 your best year yet
If you’re one of those people who as midnight on New Year’s Eve approaches declares “this is going to be my year”, and are then left disappointed when things don’t work out as you had hoped, you might need to adjust your mindset.
Someone who knows what they are talking about is Francesca Amber, the host of the UK’s number one self improvement podcast, Law of Attraction Changed My Life.
In 2020, Amber, now 39, found herself a single mum-of-three after recently giving birth to twins and lockdown saw her lose her London-based beauty business.
She would have been well within her rights to sit and wallow, but instead, Amber – who is originally from Essex and now lives in Lincoln – channelled her energy elsewhere, growing her podcast to over 11 million downloads and 100,000 followers on Instagram.
In addition to her podcast, she also offers online workshops, downloadable subliminal messages to help you live your best life in your sleep, and runs a monthly self-help book club.
Francesca Amber is a firm believer in the Law of Attraction, which is the philopsophy that a positive mindset will attract more success and happiness than a negative one
Francesca Amber
For the last four years, she has also hosted an online Goal Setting Party every December.
This year’s event is set to take place on December 28 from 8pm. Can’t make the date? Those who buy a ticket can either particpate live, or watch it back later at their own leisure.
Speaking to the Standard, she explained: “It just started off as i’m big on goal setting and always found that New Year’s resolutions never worked. I got really frustrated by it and I thought ‘do you know what? Let me do it with other people and develop this formula to make New Year’s goals and resolutions work.’ It has been so, so hugely popular, like, thousands of people do it with me every year, it’s great.
“It lasts two to three hours, it depends on how it goes but it really is like holding space for people to create their goals and create their dream lives for their year.
“I feel like when you just sit down with a piece of paper and you’re like ‘oh, I’m going to write my New Year’s resolutions’, how long do you genuinely take thinking about your life? I bet less than five or ten minutes. But when someone actually has a structure and we make it into a party – I don’t call it a course or a workshop, it’s a party – we have wine and snacks and make it really fun and some people do it with their friends.
“It actually forces you to spend that time focusing on your own life and what you want rather than just rushing through it.
She had three top tips to offer for New Year goal setting success.
“Number one, people don’t celebrate enough what they’ve done, you always see people saying ‘oh this is a bit of a s*** year’ but hopefully next year is going to be better, but I can guarantee those people that say that it’s never going to be better.
“One of the first things we do is reflect back on the year that you just had because I feel like so often we’re just looking forward to like ‘New Year, new me’, ‘what do I want to bring in to my life?’ but we don’t often look at what actually worked in the year just gone? Were there things that you wanted to manifest and goals that you had? But when you reached them, you were like, actually, this didn’t feels as good as I thought it would, like it’s not in alignment with my life. So we look back at what were your wins in 2024? What can you celebrate? What do you want more of? But also, yeah, what didn’t feel as great and what do you definitely want to leave behind?”
Recognise the current season of your life
“I think sometimes people can get bogged down because of whatever situation they’re in. So, it could be that you’ve just gone through a divorce, they’ve got a new baby, your mum has died or you’re overcoming an illness, so we can look back on that year and go ‘oh, I didn’t do as much as I wanted’ or ‘It was a really s*** year because of…’ whatever happened, but when you recognise and fully accept the season of life that you’re in, it really does shift your priorities. You realise your energy levels are different, it changes your perspective and you can set your goals accordingly.
“In the moment it can feel like it’s forever, but [the season of your life] can and is always changing.”
Let go of what no longer serve you
“Everyone I speak to has a similar thing of their life is so full and they’re so busy and I think when you’re trying to bring new stuff into your life whether it’s new things, new people, new habits, new situations, whatever, we’re trying to bring that into an already stuffed life and it’s never going to happen.
“We reflect on the year that has just been and we consciously let go of and edit out of our lives stuff that we don’t want to take with us, which is great, because it just leaves space for more.”
For more information and to sign up to Francesca Amber’s 2025 Goal Setting Party, her other self improvement courses and more, visit francescaamber.com
